Name change considerations

In her book Weddings, Emily Post told something to be thought over about name change in wedding:
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The matter of changing names is traditionally more of a consideration for the bride than it is for the groom, since it is still rare for a man to change his name upon marrying. If a woman is being married for a second time, she probably has already changed her name once. She may have kept her ex-husband's surname, or she may have reverted to her maiden name. Another marriage can bring about more change. If the bride has kept her married name from her first marriage, it is likely that she will take her new husband's surname--if for no other reason than to avoid confusion for all concerned. She may also do it out of consideration and love for her new husband, who will undoubtedly be pleased that she will be known by his name and not by another man's name.

Professional Versus Social
One way to deal professionally with a name change is for the bride to continue to use the name she has been using in work or professional situations. Therefore, she is known as Ms. Jane Johnson at work, while socially she is Mrs. Franklin Pierce, or Jane Johnson Pierce if she retains her maiden name as her middle name.

Children and Names
If the bride has children from a previous marriage, their last name will very likely be that of their father, while their mother may be using her maiden name or taking the name of her new husband. How this is sorted out is up to each bride and groom, but it is important to let relevant persons and organizations know who is who. You may want to type up a note stating the proper names, phone numbers, and addresses of how you are to be notified in case of any calls or correspondence. Give copies to your child's school, pediatrician and dentist, and any religious and sports groups.
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