In her book Weddings, Emily Post introduced wills and finances in wedding:
'
When there is no pre- or postnuptial contract, the bride and groom would be smart to put their wills and finances in order so that the disposition of their money and property is clear to each other or, should both die, to their families.
Changing Beneficiaries
Finances include such things as insurance policies and beneficiaries on retirement plan payouts. Assuming the bride and groom want to make each other the beneficiary on any existing policies they own, the couple should call an insurance broker and talk to their payroll coordinator at work to see what documentation is required to make this change.
Decisions about bank accounts
How the couple will manage their finances is purely personal, but they should discuss their thoughts. They may decide to maintain a separate accounts as well as open a new joint account, or they may pool all their finances into a joint account. If the bride is maintaining a separate account but changing her name, she needs to take care of this paperwork when she changes other legal documents. If she is changing her name and has direct electronic deposit into her account, she needs to coordinate the account change at the same time as she changes her name at work.
'
Saturday, June 30, 2012
Friday, June 29, 2012
Domestic Partnership Affidavits
In her book Weddings, Emily Post reminds something to pay attention of same-gender marriage:
'
Most experts agree that before a same-gender couple enters into a domestic partnership affidavit the two should consult with an attorney. This agreement is intended to create for same-gender couples who cannot legally marry conditions equal to those of married couples of opposite genders. An affidavit can, however, contain clauses that may be unpalatable to the couple. For example, in some cities, the couple is required to live together and to "have a close personal relationship." Critics claim this is discriminatory, arguing that legal marriage does not require that a couple live together or have a close personal relationship. Signing such an agreement brings few real benefits but may include being able to participate in a partner's health insurance plan. If these situations are not a factor, organizations such as the Partners Task Force for Gay & Lesbian Couples suggest that partners desiring validation as a couple instead plan a wedding or other ceremony of commitment.
'
'
Most experts agree that before a same-gender couple enters into a domestic partnership affidavit the two should consult with an attorney. This agreement is intended to create for same-gender couples who cannot legally marry conditions equal to those of married couples of opposite genders. An affidavit can, however, contain clauses that may be unpalatable to the couple. For example, in some cities, the couple is required to live together and to "have a close personal relationship." Critics claim this is discriminatory, arguing that legal marriage does not require that a couple live together or have a close personal relationship. Signing such an agreement brings few real benefits but may include being able to participate in a partner's health insurance plan. If these situations are not a factor, organizations such as the Partners Task Force for Gay & Lesbian Couples suggest that partners desiring validation as a couple instead plan a wedding or other ceremony of commitment.
'
Thursday, June 28, 2012
Some considerations in Premarital agreement
In her book Weddings, Emily Post reminds some considerations in Premarital agreement:
'
Disclosure
Because one person is usually giving something up by agreeing to a prenuptial contract, both the bride and the groom must fully disclose their finances to each other in advance. Most states require that the premarital agreement include separate listings that describe and show the values of each person's assets. If the couple chooses not to do this, they are preventing one partner from knowing what he or she is losing by signing the contract--and this may constitute fraud, which makes the agreement unenforceable. For this reason, and to ensure that the agreement is written correctly and legally, it is a good idea for both the bride and the groom to seek the advice of his or her own lawyer before entering into the agreement.
The Form of the Agreement
A prenuptial contract or premarital agreement must be in writing to be legally binding. It provides evidence of the terms of the agreement and demonstrates that both people understand and agree to the terms. It is generally legally binding as long as it is entered into voluntarily and without fraud and as long as it is reasonable and fair. It is not binding if a person is unfairly induced to sign the agreement or is coerced under excessive emotional pressure.
The Art of Diplomacy
It is often as difficult for those requesting a premarital contract to broach the subject as it is being asked to sign one. Again, a prenuptial contract may simply be a way of protecting assets you bring into the marriage in the (unlikely) event of divorce or death. A couple who communicates well has a head start in discussing a prenuptial contract. If you are the person requesting a premarital agreement, do so with tact, love, and honesty. Explain exactly why you are making the request and whether it affects the assets you amass as a couple (it shouldn't). Discuss the lifetime of assets you hope to build together as a couple--assets completely separate from the assets protected in the prenuptial agreement.
'
'
Disclosure
Because one person is usually giving something up by agreeing to a prenuptial contract, both the bride and the groom must fully disclose their finances to each other in advance. Most states require that the premarital agreement include separate listings that describe and show the values of each person's assets. If the couple chooses not to do this, they are preventing one partner from knowing what he or she is losing by signing the contract--and this may constitute fraud, which makes the agreement unenforceable. For this reason, and to ensure that the agreement is written correctly and legally, it is a good idea for both the bride and the groom to seek the advice of his or her own lawyer before entering into the agreement.
The Form of the Agreement
A prenuptial contract or premarital agreement must be in writing to be legally binding. It provides evidence of the terms of the agreement and demonstrates that both people understand and agree to the terms. It is generally legally binding as long as it is entered into voluntarily and without fraud and as long as it is reasonable and fair. It is not binding if a person is unfairly induced to sign the agreement or is coerced under excessive emotional pressure.
The Art of Diplomacy
It is often as difficult for those requesting a premarital contract to broach the subject as it is being asked to sign one. Again, a prenuptial contract may simply be a way of protecting assets you bring into the marriage in the (unlikely) event of divorce or death. A couple who communicates well has a head start in discussing a prenuptial contract. If you are the person requesting a premarital agreement, do so with tact, love, and honesty. Explain exactly why you are making the request and whether it affects the assets you amass as a couple (it shouldn't). Discuss the lifetime of assets you hope to build together as a couple--assets completely separate from the assets protected in the prenuptial agreement.
'
Wednesday, June 27, 2012
Pre- and Post-nuptial contracts
In her book Weddings, Emily Post reminds the pre- and post-nuptial contracts in wedding:
'
The matter of formalizing financial and legal matters through a prenuptial contract or premarital agreement is a sensitive one for brides and grooms, many of whom consider doing so a crass form of hedging bets on the longevity of the marriage. It is definitely an issue that needs to be discussed early in the relationship--and not something you spring on your partner-to-be right before the ceremony. Otherwise, serious doubts, hurt feelings, and even extreme anger can result.
Basically, a premarital agreement is a contract between two people that defines the rights and benefits that will exist during the marriage and after, in the event of divorce. It can expand or limit a person's right to property, life insurance benefits, or support payments upon death or divorce. Usually, it addresses the rights to property that each brings to the marriage, retirement plan assets, and how money accumulated before the marriage will be distributed in case of death or divorce. Without a premarital agreement, state laws define the rights and benefits of marriage. If the couple does not want to rely on state laws to determine their legal and fiscal fate, the premarital agreement allows them to make their own rules.
Although anyone can have a premarital agreement, it is most often used when the bride or the groom or both bring assets to the marriage that they want to protect in the event of divorce or death. This is particularly true for people marrying for the second or third time who want to make sure that certain assets are passed on to their children from a previous marriage.
What a prenuptial contract does nto cover is child custody and support. The courts will disregard the contract on this point and make a decision that is considered in the best interest of the child. The courts will also disregard a premarital agreement that, in essence, leaves one person destitute.
A postnuptial contract is one made after a couple is married. It can include the same categories of consideration, usually having to do with property and money, as those in a prenuptial contract. This contract is usually drawn if the couple realizes that children from a previous marriage or other family members would be unprotected in the case of divorce or death.
'
'
The matter of formalizing financial and legal matters through a prenuptial contract or premarital agreement is a sensitive one for brides and grooms, many of whom consider doing so a crass form of hedging bets on the longevity of the marriage. It is definitely an issue that needs to be discussed early in the relationship--and not something you spring on your partner-to-be right before the ceremony. Otherwise, serious doubts, hurt feelings, and even extreme anger can result.
Basically, a premarital agreement is a contract between two people that defines the rights and benefits that will exist during the marriage and after, in the event of divorce. It can expand or limit a person's right to property, life insurance benefits, or support payments upon death or divorce. Usually, it addresses the rights to property that each brings to the marriage, retirement plan assets, and how money accumulated before the marriage will be distributed in case of death or divorce. Without a premarital agreement, state laws define the rights and benefits of marriage. If the couple does not want to rely on state laws to determine their legal and fiscal fate, the premarital agreement allows them to make their own rules.
Although anyone can have a premarital agreement, it is most often used when the bride or the groom or both bring assets to the marriage that they want to protect in the event of divorce or death. This is particularly true for people marrying for the second or third time who want to make sure that certain assets are passed on to their children from a previous marriage.
What a prenuptial contract does nto cover is child custody and support. The courts will disregard the contract on this point and make a decision that is considered in the best interest of the child. The courts will also disregard a premarital agreement that, in essence, leaves one person destitute.
A postnuptial contract is one made after a couple is married. It can include the same categories of consideration, usually having to do with property and money, as those in a prenuptial contract. This contract is usually drawn if the couple realizes that children from a previous marriage or other family members would be unprotected in the case of divorce or death.
'
Tuesday, June 26, 2012
Name Change: Official Notifications
In her book Weddings, Emily Post reminds the official notifications of name change in wedding:
'
When a bride changes her name, she must notify a vast number of people, companies, agencies, and organizations. Use your wedding planner to list these names. Some organizations require proof of the name change and will require a copy of the marriage certificate, which is issued after the marriage. When an address change is occurring as well, it is a good idea to make both changes at the same time. Those to notify include:
'
'
When a bride changes her name, she must notify a vast number of people, companies, agencies, and organizations. Use your wedding planner to list these names. Some organizations require proof of the name change and will require a copy of the marriage certificate, which is issued after the marriage. When an address change is occurring as well, it is a good idea to make both changes at the same time. Those to notify include:
- Social Security Administration
- motor vehicles department
- passport agency
- employer payroll department
- banks
- credit unions
- mortgage company
- voter registration
- financial planner (or investment firms/stockbroker)
- credit-card companies
- religious organizations
- magazine subscriptions
- school alumni organizations
- credit accounts (local stores)
- frequent travel clubs
- doctors and dentists
'
Monday, June 25, 2012
Friday, June 22, 2012
Name change considerations
In her book Weddings, Emily Post told something to be thought over about name change in wedding:
'
The matter of changing names is traditionally more of a consideration for the bride than it is for the groom, since it is still rare for a man to change his name upon marrying. If a woman is being married for a second time, she probably has already changed her name once. She may have kept her ex-husband's surname, or she may have reverted to her maiden name. Another marriage can bring about more change. If the bride has kept her married name from her first marriage, it is likely that she will take her new husband's surname--if for no other reason than to avoid confusion for all concerned. She may also do it out of consideration and love for her new husband, who will undoubtedly be pleased that she will be known by his name and not by another man's name.
Professional Versus Social
One way to deal professionally with a name change is for the bride to continue to use the name she has been using in work or professional situations. Therefore, she is known as Ms. Jane Johnson at work, while socially she is Mrs. Franklin Pierce, or Jane Johnson Pierce if she retains her maiden name as her middle name.
Children and Names
If the bride has children from a previous marriage, their last name will very likely be that of their father, while their mother may be using her maiden name or taking the name of her new husband. How this is sorted out is up to each bride and groom, but it is important to let relevant persons and organizations know who is who. You may want to type up a note stating the proper names, phone numbers, and addresses of how you are to be notified in case of any calls or correspondence. Give copies to your child's school, pediatrician and dentist, and any religious and sports groups.
'
'
The matter of changing names is traditionally more of a consideration for the bride than it is for the groom, since it is still rare for a man to change his name upon marrying. If a woman is being married for a second time, she probably has already changed her name once. She may have kept her ex-husband's surname, or she may have reverted to her maiden name. Another marriage can bring about more change. If the bride has kept her married name from her first marriage, it is likely that she will take her new husband's surname--if for no other reason than to avoid confusion for all concerned. She may also do it out of consideration and love for her new husband, who will undoubtedly be pleased that she will be known by his name and not by another man's name.
Professional Versus Social
One way to deal professionally with a name change is for the bride to continue to use the name she has been using in work or professional situations. Therefore, she is known as Ms. Jane Johnson at work, while socially she is Mrs. Franklin Pierce, or Jane Johnson Pierce if she retains her maiden name as her middle name.
Children and Names
If the bride has children from a previous marriage, their last name will very likely be that of their father, while their mother may be using her maiden name or taking the name of her new husband. How this is sorted out is up to each bride and groom, but it is important to let relevant persons and organizations know who is who. You may want to type up a note stating the proper names, phone numbers, and addresses of how you are to be notified in case of any calls or correspondence. Give copies to your child's school, pediatrician and dentist, and any religious and sports groups.
'
Thursday, June 21, 2012
Name change in wedding
In her book Weddings, Emily Post told something about name change in wedding:
'
There is no law, rule, religious dictate, or mandate that says the bride must take the groom's last name. A bride may take her husband's last name, retain her own surname, or hyphenate both her own surname and her husband's surname. When Linda Graham marries Mark Richards, she may be Linda Richards, Linda Graham, or Linda Graham-Richards. Despite the range of acceptable choices, 90 percent of today's U.S. brides make the traditional choice of adopting their husband's names.
A bride who wishes to take her husband's last name may retain her given middle name or, more commonly, use her own surname as a middle name. Linda Beth Graham may become Linda Graham Richards or Linda Beth Richards.
The only law governing the name chosen by the bride (or by the groom, who has the option of changing his name as well) is that the name is used consistently and without intent to defraud. Any name change is effected simply by entering the new name in the appropriate space provided on the marriage license, as long as the new name consists of one of the following options:
'
'
There is no law, rule, religious dictate, or mandate that says the bride must take the groom's last name. A bride may take her husband's last name, retain her own surname, or hyphenate both her own surname and her husband's surname. When Linda Graham marries Mark Richards, she may be Linda Richards, Linda Graham, or Linda Graham-Richards. Despite the range of acceptable choices, 90 percent of today's U.S. brides make the traditional choice of adopting their husband's names.
A bride who wishes to take her husband's last name may retain her given middle name or, more commonly, use her own surname as a middle name. Linda Beth Graham may become Linda Graham Richards or Linda Beth Richards.
The only law governing the name chosen by the bride (or by the groom, who has the option of changing his name as well) is that the name is used consistently and without intent to defraud. Any name change is effected simply by entering the new name in the appropriate space provided on the marriage license, as long as the new name consists of one of the following options:
- the surname of the bride (or the groom)
- any former surname he or she has had
- a name combining into a single surname all or a segment of the pre-marriage surname or any former surname of each spouse
- a combination name separated by a hyphen, provided that each part of such combination surname is the pre-marriage surname, or any former surname, of each of the spouses
'
Wednesday, June 20, 2012
Premarital Counseling
In her book Weddings, Emily Post explained premarital counseling:
'
Premarital counseling, whether mandated or merely recommended, is a short-term way to work through important issues ahead of time and avoid conflict over the long haul. The purpose is to raise issues that might not have been considered, to discuss potential sensitive areas, and to give words to some of the concerns a couple may have but may not know how to express.
Most couples feel that by the time they are engaged, they know pretty much everything there is to know about each other. It is very likely, however, that they have not seriously talked through a range of issues, including their own physical and emotional needs, their respective goals and desires, and their thoughts on problem-solving and compromise. It's a good time as well to compare notes on having children, work and home priorities, coping with sickness or a crisis, money matters, and spiritual beliefs. People of different religious backgrounds often find clergy counseling extremely helpful, especially if they are planning to have children and raise them in a religious household.
This is also a good time to discuss with your future mate how family matters may best be resolved. A bride or groom might be entering into a marriage with children from a previous marriage or face parental disapproval or a divided family. They may have been on their own for a long time and aren't used to shared decision-making.
When premarital counseling is completed, it would be thoughtful of the bride and groom to write a thank-you note or a letter to their minister, priest, or rabbi to express their appreciation for the guidance they received.
'
'
Premarital counseling, whether mandated or merely recommended, is a short-term way to work through important issues ahead of time and avoid conflict over the long haul. The purpose is to raise issues that might not have been considered, to discuss potential sensitive areas, and to give words to some of the concerns a couple may have but may not know how to express.
Most couples feel that by the time they are engaged, they know pretty much everything there is to know about each other. It is very likely, however, that they have not seriously talked through a range of issues, including their own physical and emotional needs, their respective goals and desires, and their thoughts on problem-solving and compromise. It's a good time as well to compare notes on having children, work and home priorities, coping with sickness or a crisis, money matters, and spiritual beliefs. People of different religious backgrounds often find clergy counseling extremely helpful, especially if they are planning to have children and raise them in a religious household.
This is also a good time to discuss with your future mate how family matters may best be resolved. A bride or groom might be entering into a marriage with children from a previous marriage or face parental disapproval or a divided family. They may have been on their own for a long time and aren't used to shared decision-making.
When premarital counseling is completed, it would be thoughtful of the bride and groom to write a thank-you note or a letter to their minister, priest, or rabbi to express their appreciation for the guidance they received.
'
Tuesday, June 19, 2012
Driving 5000 ducks on street
Mr. Hong and his three assistants were driving 5,000 ducks on street in Taizhou, Zhejiang province, China on June 17 to a pond one kilometer away to feed them. Where they appear, the pedestrians and vehicles were stopping to watch or give way. Mr. Hong said, he always drive the flock through street to find food for them in more than half a year, and doesn't loss any duck.
 |
 |
 |
Monday, June 18, 2012
Religious factors to be considered before wedding
In her book Weddings, Emily Post explained religious factors to be considered before wedding:
'
Mastering government legalities is just one step toward ensuring the legality of your marriage. Some religions also have rules and regulations that must be adhered to--points that are best immediately checked with the priest, rabbi, or minister who will officiate.
In some religions, for example, "banns" must be published over a three-week period. A bann is a public statement of intent to marry that asks anyone who may object to do so. If, at the end of 21 days, no one has objected, the couple may marry. In other religions, a set number of premarital counseling sessions must be attended before the clergy person will marry the couple. In still other religions, if one or both members of the couple have been divorced, the divorce is not recognized and they may not be married in the church. There is also the matter of membership. For a wedding to take place at a Quaker meeting house, for example, at least one member of the couple should be a Quaker. Otherwise, written support for the marriage must be obtained from two adult members of the Society.
The bottom line: Even if you are a lifelong Roman Catholic, Lutheran, or Presbyterian or a convert to Judaism or the Hindu faith who has seriously studied the tenets of the religion, inquire in advance whether the church has any special requirements. If it is important to you to be married by a priest, rabbi, or minister or in a church, temple, or synagogue, you will need to know the requirements beforehand.
'
'
Mastering government legalities is just one step toward ensuring the legality of your marriage. Some religions also have rules and regulations that must be adhered to--points that are best immediately checked with the priest, rabbi, or minister who will officiate.
In some religions, for example, "banns" must be published over a three-week period. A bann is a public statement of intent to marry that asks anyone who may object to do so. If, at the end of 21 days, no one has objected, the couple may marry. In other religions, a set number of premarital counseling sessions must be attended before the clergy person will marry the couple. In still other religions, if one or both members of the couple have been divorced, the divorce is not recognized and they may not be married in the church. There is also the matter of membership. For a wedding to take place at a Quaker meeting house, for example, at least one member of the couple should be a Quaker. Otherwise, written support for the marriage must be obtained from two adult members of the Society.
The bottom line: Even if you are a lifelong Roman Catholic, Lutheran, or Presbyterian or a convert to Judaism or the Hindu faith who has seriously studied the tenets of the religion, inquire in advance whether the church has any special requirements. If it is important to you to be married by a priest, rabbi, or minister or in a church, temple, or synagogue, you will need to know the requirements beforehand.
'
Sunday, June 17, 2012
Successful launching of Spaceship Shenzhou 9
 |
| Astronaut Mrs. Liu Yang, Mr. Jing Haipeng, and Mr. Liu Wang |
 |
| Rocket launching |
 |
| Watching rocket launch |
 |
| In the launching |
Saturday, June 16, 2012
Who can perform a marriage ceremony?
In her book Weddings, Emily Post explained who can perform a marriage ceremony:
'
Nonreligious ceremonies, called civil ceremonies, may be performed by a judge, justice of the peace, or court clerk who has legal authority to perform marriages; they may also be performed by a person given temporary authority by a judge or court clerk to conduct a marriage ceremony. Contrary to popular belief, ship captains often will not perform or are not universally authorized to perform marriage ceremonies. Increasingly, however, cruise lines are working out ways for legally recognized marriages to be performed aboard ship by ship captains. A list of persons specified by law as authorized to perform a marriage ceremony is available in that each state's Domestic Relations Law and can include:
'
Nonreligious ceremonies, called civil ceremonies, may be performed by a judge, justice of the peace, or court clerk who has legal authority to perform marriages; they may also be performed by a person given temporary authority by a judge or court clerk to conduct a marriage ceremony. Contrary to popular belief, ship captains often will not perform or are not universally authorized to perform marriage ceremonies. Increasingly, however, cruise lines are working out ways for legally recognized marriages to be performed aboard ship by ship captains. A list of persons specified by law as authorized to perform a marriage ceremony is available in that each state's Domestic Relations Law and can include:
- the mayor of a city or village
- the city clerk or one of the deputy city clerks of a city with over one million inhabitants
- a marriage officer appointed by the town or village board or the city common council
- a justice or judge in most courts
- a village, town, or county justice
- a member of the clergy (priest, rabbi, or minister) who has been officially ordained and granted authority to perform marriage ceremonies from a governing church body in accordance with its rules and regulations
- a member of the clergy or minister who is not authorized by a governing church body but who has been chosen by a spiritual group to preside over their spiritual affairs
- a tribal chief (for Native American weddings)
Friday, June 15, 2012
Kids: Stupid or Crazy?
In my heads, kids were lovely, cute, and innocent, though sometimes they play practical jokes which in my opinion are totally tolerable, under-control and a consisting part in their grow-up process. So when one of my colleague usually speaks 'stupid kids' as he referring his sons's and other kids' behaviours, I was not agree with him and always in defence with kids.
Years go away, gradually I find in Canada kids are not so simple as I think before in China, sometimes they are not innocent at all, but a troublesome destroying force in society. They steal bicycle and car, drink, and smoke. Can you believe a 7-year-old to ignite and fire a house?
This week I received two emails from my friends which were forwarded from city police and RCMP to warn the doubtable bottle which may be explosion object:
"Kids are putting Drano, tin foil, and a little water in plastic drink bottles and capping it up - leaving it on lawns, in mail boxes, in gardens, on driveways etc. just waiting for you to pick it up intending to put it in the rubbish, but you'll never make it!!! If the bottle is picked up, and the bottle is shaken even just a little - in about 30 seconds or less it build up enough gas which then explodes with enough force to remove some of your extremities. The liquid that comes out is boiling hot as well. Don't pick up any plastic bottles that may be lying in your yards or in the gutter, etc. Pay attention to this. A plastic bottle with a cap. A little Drano. A little water. A small piece of foil. Disturb it by moving it; and BOOM!! No fingers left and other serious effects to your face, eyes, etc."
This warn totally strikes me. I can't believe there may exists explosion object in my back yard in Canada, and the terrorists are kids. They are not kids, they are evil.
So what happened to the kids causing them not only stupid but crazy?
Years go away, gradually I find in Canada kids are not so simple as I think before in China, sometimes they are not innocent at all, but a troublesome destroying force in society. They steal bicycle and car, drink, and smoke. Can you believe a 7-year-old to ignite and fire a house?
This week I received two emails from my friends which were forwarded from city police and RCMP to warn the doubtable bottle which may be explosion object:
"Kids are putting Drano, tin foil, and a little water in plastic drink bottles and capping it up - leaving it on lawns, in mail boxes, in gardens, on driveways etc. just waiting for you to pick it up intending to put it in the rubbish, but you'll never make it!!! If the bottle is picked up, and the bottle is shaken even just a little - in about 30 seconds or less it build up enough gas which then explodes with enough force to remove some of your extremities. The liquid that comes out is boiling hot as well. Don't pick up any plastic bottles that may be lying in your yards or in the gutter, etc. Pay attention to this. A plastic bottle with a cap. A little Drano. A little water. A small piece of foil. Disturb it by moving it; and BOOM!! No fingers left and other serious effects to your face, eyes, etc."
This warn totally strikes me. I can't believe there may exists explosion object in my back yard in Canada, and the terrorists are kids. They are not kids, they are evil.
So what happened to the kids causing them not only stupid but crazy?
Thursday, June 14, 2012
Walking tiger on street
A guy was walking two little tigers recently on street in Jilin city, northeast of China, which scared the walkers beside. Though the tigers are man-feed and so cute, but they are tigers not supposed dogs, which is fierce and so called king of beasts. Chinese old saying tells, it is eventually a trouble to keep a tiger. So people suggest to contain them in zoo, where they should stay.
 |
 |
Wednesday, June 13, 2012
Married in the eyes of the law
In her book Weddings, Emily Post introduced the legal requirements of wedding.
'
Along with the romance, fun, and excitement of a wedding come the absolutes--the legally required paperwork and "to-do's" without which a marriage cannot take place. In order to be married in the eyes of the law, a couple must live up to the letter of the law-and the law can vary, not just from country to country but from state to state and even city to city. For example, you might find that Michigan requires a blood test, counseling, and witnesses for a marriage to take place (or a 60-day waiting period for couples who ignore the counseling requirement), while Ohio requires none of these. You certainly don't need to go so far as to hire an attorney to get married, but it is a good idea to check, in advance, what is required--whether you are getting married in your hometown or on an exotic locale on another continent.
Where do you start? Write or call the County Clerk's office or the Office of the Registrar in the town or county you are to be married. They may simply mail or fax you a list of legal requirements for acquiring a marriage license. Some states require that you register in the same state and even county where the ceremony will be performed, and some ask that you do so in person. The most important point is, start your research well in advance of the ceremony so that, come your wedding day, all will be legal and above board.
'
'
Along with the romance, fun, and excitement of a wedding come the absolutes--the legally required paperwork and "to-do's" without which a marriage cannot take place. In order to be married in the eyes of the law, a couple must live up to the letter of the law-and the law can vary, not just from country to country but from state to state and even city to city. For example, you might find that Michigan requires a blood test, counseling, and witnesses for a marriage to take place (or a 60-day waiting period for couples who ignore the counseling requirement), while Ohio requires none of these. You certainly don't need to go so far as to hire an attorney to get married, but it is a good idea to check, in advance, what is required--whether you are getting married in your hometown or on an exotic locale on another continent.
Where do you start? Write or call the County Clerk's office or the Office of the Registrar in the town or county you are to be married. They may simply mail or fax you a list of legal requirements for acquiring a marriage license. Some states require that you register in the same state and even county where the ceremony will be performed, and some ask that you do so in person. The most important point is, start your research well in advance of the ceremony so that, come your wedding day, all will be legal and above board.
'
Tuesday, June 12, 2012
Beware the hidden costs in wedding
In her book Weddings, Emily Post pointed out of some hidden costs in wedding.
'
Even deciphering the fine print on a contract can leave you with unanswered questions. Know exactly what you need up front so that you can ferret out hidden, unanticipated costs. For example, make sure that alterations to your gown are included in the service and price in the contract with a bridal salon. If they are not, ask what the general costs are. Very often, a manufacturer's or designer's gown is ordered by the salon in a size larger than you need so that there is extra fabric when alterations are required. This can be a plus, but if you need few alterations to the size you usually wear, you are paying for charges you aren't expecting. Does the salon charge extra to press your gown after alterations? If so, how much extra? Would it be less expensive for you to take the gown to a reputable and experienced dry cleaner for pressing?
The contract for a reception site is based on the length of time your reception lasts, along with all other related costs. Find out what overtime really means before signing the contract. For example, if your reception is planned from two to five in the afternoon, does that mean the bar closes at five and the band goes home and that guests should be gone within half an hour, or does it mean that you have to end the reception by four-thirty to ensure that everyone is out by five? In the latter case, you may be incurring overtime costs if you think that the reception literally lasts until five o'clock.
Don't forget taxes and gratuities, which can add a significant amount to the total bill-especially in states that have a high sales tax. It's a good idea to make sure that taxes and tips are included in the total price. And inquire about any unfamiliar terms in the contract that would have hidden costs, such as "plate charges" in your invitation order.
Costs such as these can be well hidden in the prices you are charged. You are entitled to know exactly what is included--and what is not--before agreeing to the service. If the service provider or contractor is unwilling to give you a detailed listing or breakdown of costs, consider looking elsewhere.
'
'
Even deciphering the fine print on a contract can leave you with unanswered questions. Know exactly what you need up front so that you can ferret out hidden, unanticipated costs. For example, make sure that alterations to your gown are included in the service and price in the contract with a bridal salon. If they are not, ask what the general costs are. Very often, a manufacturer's or designer's gown is ordered by the salon in a size larger than you need so that there is extra fabric when alterations are required. This can be a plus, but if you need few alterations to the size you usually wear, you are paying for charges you aren't expecting. Does the salon charge extra to press your gown after alterations? If so, how much extra? Would it be less expensive for you to take the gown to a reputable and experienced dry cleaner for pressing?
The contract for a reception site is based on the length of time your reception lasts, along with all other related costs. Find out what overtime really means before signing the contract. For example, if your reception is planned from two to five in the afternoon, does that mean the bar closes at five and the band goes home and that guests should be gone within half an hour, or does it mean that you have to end the reception by four-thirty to ensure that everyone is out by five? In the latter case, you may be incurring overtime costs if you think that the reception literally lasts until five o'clock.
Don't forget taxes and gratuities, which can add a significant amount to the total bill-especially in states that have a high sales tax. It's a good idea to make sure that taxes and tips are included in the total price. And inquire about any unfamiliar terms in the contract that would have hidden costs, such as "plate charges" in your invitation order.
Costs such as these can be well hidden in the prices you are charged. You are entitled to know exactly what is included--and what is not--before agreeing to the service. If the service provider or contractor is unwilling to give you a detailed listing or breakdown of costs, consider looking elsewhere.
'
Monday, June 11, 2012
Tips on Tipping of Wedding
In her book Weddings, Emily Post introduced some tips on tipping of wedding.
'
Many wedding professionals, from bridal consultants to photographers, are tipped only for extra-special service. If your florist arrived to decorate the ceremony site only to find a locked door, which caused him to wait an extra hour, a tip would be an extra thank-you for his professionalism, patience, and diligence. While you might set aside an extra 15 percent as an unexpected tip fund, you needn't anticipate tips for the consultant, club manager or caterer, florist, photographer or videographer. Often a caterer's gratuities are included in the total costs; many hotels include a service charge for the wait staff. Always ask whether gratuities are included before signing any contract.
You should plan a gratuity budget for the following:
In the case of limousine drivers and the catering staff, you can request that gratuities be included in the total bill; you don't want to be pulling out your calculator to figure out what you should give the bartender at the end of the reception. (Make sure there are no tip receptacles on the bar making guests wonder whether they should leave a tip.) Some reception sites request that all tips be paid in cash in advance. Check your contract and take care of this detail before-hand so that no one has to settle a bill during or after the event. If gratuities are to be given after the wedding or are not included in the final bill, they should still be counted out and put in sealed envelopes beforehand so that they can be distributed easily at the end of the reception.
When a tip is spontaneous and given to a vendor who has done an extraordinary service, it can be given at the end of the reception or the next day, with a note of thanks included.
'
'
Many wedding professionals, from bridal consultants to photographers, are tipped only for extra-special service. If your florist arrived to decorate the ceremony site only to find a locked door, which caused him to wait an extra hour, a tip would be an extra thank-you for his professionalism, patience, and diligence. While you might set aside an extra 15 percent as an unexpected tip fund, you needn't anticipate tips for the consultant, club manager or caterer, florist, photographer or videographer. Often a caterer's gratuities are included in the total costs; many hotels include a service charge for the wait staff. Always ask whether gratuities are included before signing any contract.
You should plan a gratuity budget for the following:
- valet parking
- coat check
- powder-room attendants
- delivery truck drivers
- chauffeurs
- wait staff
- bartenders
- table captains
In the case of limousine drivers and the catering staff, you can request that gratuities be included in the total bill; you don't want to be pulling out your calculator to figure out what you should give the bartender at the end of the reception. (Make sure there are no tip receptacles on the bar making guests wonder whether they should leave a tip.) Some reception sites request that all tips be paid in cash in advance. Check your contract and take care of this detail before-hand so that no one has to settle a bill during or after the event. If gratuities are to be given after the wedding or are not included in the final bill, they should still be counted out and put in sealed envelopes beforehand so that they can be distributed easily at the end of the reception.
When a tip is spontaneous and given to a vendor who has done an extraordinary service, it can be given at the end of the reception or the next day, with a note of thanks included.
'
Sunday, June 10, 2012
Saving on wedding flowers
In her book Weddings, Emily Post introduced some ways of saving on wedding flowers.
'
If flowers are your passion and therefore a key element of your wedding, then the florist's bill becomes a necessary expense. But you can save on flowers in any number of ways, including the following.
'
If flowers are your passion and therefore a key element of your wedding, then the florist's bill becomes a necessary expense. But you can save on flowers in any number of ways, including the following.
- Don't book your wedding around Valentine's Day or Mother's Day, times that flower costs are at an all-time high.
- Take advantage of existing floral decorations by having your wedding in December, when the church is already decorated with wreaths and poinsettias.
- Choose a botanical garden for your reception.
- Instead of investing in formal, expensive bouquets, have your wedding party carry free-form, loose bouquets of flowers from a local garden, tied prettily with a satin ribbon.
- Use silk flowers for the top of the cake, for your and attendant's hair, and for the flower girl to carry.
Saturday, June 9, 2012
Saving on wedding gown
In her book 'Weddings', Emily Post introduced some ways of saving on wedding gown.
'
Read bridal magazines and check Internet websites for discount or wholesale bridal services that order gowns from designers for about 25 percent less than they cost at bridal salons. The drawbacks: You'll have to find your own seamstress to do alterations, and you won't have salon service. The pluses: You'll save money and/or be able to have the dream gown that you might not otherwise be able to afford.
Investigate renting a bridal gown. Rental gowns have usually only been worn once, and you can find a more expensive gown than you'd want to buy at literally a fraction of the cost. The drawbacks: You might not want to wear a previously worn gown, and you won't have a wedding gown to pass on to your own daughter, an almost moot point since only 4 percent of brides today wear their mother's wedding gown. The pluses: You won't have to devote precious storage space to keeping a gown you'll probably never wear again anyway. And, of course, you've spent less.
Other thrifty alternatives:
'
Read bridal magazines and check Internet websites for discount or wholesale bridal services that order gowns from designers for about 25 percent less than they cost at bridal salons. The drawbacks: You'll have to find your own seamstress to do alterations, and you won't have salon service. The pluses: You'll save money and/or be able to have the dream gown that you might not otherwise be able to afford.
Investigate renting a bridal gown. Rental gowns have usually only been worn once, and you can find a more expensive gown than you'd want to buy at literally a fraction of the cost. The drawbacks: You might not want to wear a previously worn gown, and you won't have a wedding gown to pass on to your own daughter, an almost moot point since only 4 percent of brides today wear their mother's wedding gown. The pluses: You won't have to devote precious storage space to keeping a gown you'll probably never wear again anyway. And, of course, you've spent less.
Other thrifty alternatives:
- Buy a once-used bridal gown at a secondhand or vintage clothing store. You can find real gems at these stores, one-of-a-kind designer and vintage gowns that have been worn only once.
- Make your own gown or have a seamstress relative of friend make it for you. Bridal sewing patterns are as up-to-date as the latest looks.
- Choose less traditional attire, such as a simple tea-length evening dress or a white suit.
Friday, June 8, 2012
'Chinese bread'
A Chinese student came to a Canada college to study. In his first lunch time at school cafe, he prepared to order a sandwich. Server asked what kind of bread did he want. He was not sure what the server asked and pointed a sample sandwich in counter saying, 'Just this'. But the server still asked 'What kind of bread, sir?'. He had no idea to choose bread type in sandwich but pointed the sample sandwich, 'Just this'. Then the server patiently explained, 'We have rye, Italian, French, ......'.
The Chinese guy think a while, said, 'Chinese, please'.
The Chinese guy think a while, said, 'Chinese, please'.
Thursday, June 7, 2012
Don't explain 'Unisex' by letter
A Chinese lady was shopping at a big brand fashion store in Manhattan, NewYork. She searched a lot styles of clothes, finally picked one of her like. But the question is, the style of the dress is too modern that she was not sure whether it is a woman's dress or a man's dress.
Then a tall, strong server man is coming towards her, so she showed the dress to the server man and asked, 'For girl or boy?'.
The server answered, 'Unisex', which means the dress can be worn by both man and woman.
But the Chinese lady never knew a dress could be 'unisex', and never heard the word before, so she misunderstood as 'You need sex!', by which she was very astonished and not sure what the real meaning is.
The server noticed her doubt and repeated by letter, 'U-N-I-SEX'.
This time the lady heard clearly, 'You and I Sex!'......
Then a tall, strong server man is coming towards her, so she showed the dress to the server man and asked, 'For girl or boy?'.
The server answered, 'Unisex', which means the dress can be worn by both man and woman.
But the Chinese lady never knew a dress could be 'unisex', and never heard the word before, so she misunderstood as 'You need sex!', by which she was very astonished and not sure what the real meaning is.
The server noticed her doubt and repeated by letter, 'U-N-I-SEX'.
This time the lady heard clearly, 'You and I Sex!'......
Wednesday, June 6, 2012
"Free woman!"
A Chinese guy came to New York for business trip. In his spare time, he wanted to go sightseeing. He planed the first destination was Statue of Liberty, and searched the site's location, as well as the visiting service telephone number, 666-2613.
He felt confidence and ready-prepared, so he jumped to street and called a taxi.
The taxi driver asked, "Where do you want to go, Sir?"
Now the trouble is, the Chinese guy didn't know the English calling of the Statue of Liberty, so as his understanding of the Chinese meaning, Freedom Goddess, he answered the driver, "Free Woman!"
The driver misunderstood the customer wanted to find a free prostitute, "What? Oh! Hey man, here is America, nothing is free!"
The Chinese guy wanted to provide more information, "Oh! How come! I read it from yellow page. See, this is the phone number, 'sex-sex-sex two-sex-one-free' (accent)"
He felt confidence and ready-prepared, so he jumped to street and called a taxi.
The taxi driver asked, "Where do you want to go, Sir?"
Now the trouble is, the Chinese guy didn't know the English calling of the Statue of Liberty, so as his understanding of the Chinese meaning, Freedom Goddess, he answered the driver, "Free Woman!"
The driver misunderstood the customer wanted to find a free prostitute, "What? Oh! Hey man, here is America, nothing is free!"
The Chinese guy wanted to provide more information, "Oh! How come! I read it from yellow page. See, this is the phone number, 'sex-sex-sex two-sex-one-free' (accent)"
Tuesday, June 5, 2012
Why the word 'gender' replaces 'sex' in form?
A Chinese was filling visa applying form in a visa office. When he find a column named 'sex', he thought a while, then wrote down 'once a week'.
The visa officer checked his form and laughed, ''This item should be filled in with male or female!".
The man was shamed, pondering a while, then changed to 'Female'.
The officer puzzled and asked, "Shouldn't it be male?"
The guy explained, "I am a normal man, so I have sex with female."
The visa officer checked his form and laughed, ''This item should be filled in with male or female!".
The man was shamed, pondering a while, then changed to 'Female'.
The officer puzzled and asked, "Shouldn't it be male?"
The guy explained, "I am a normal man, so I have sex with female."
Monday, June 4, 2012
"No English"
In mid 1980's a few Chinese students came to live in a small university town in Canada. They found out that washing and drying clothes in an university apartment complex is free for its residents. Even though they were not living there, they went to the complex to wash clothes every week to save 25c per load if they wash at street commercial laundry room. In mid 1980's, 25c is a good amount of money in Chinese standard.
However, the manager of the complex found that. One time, they went there again, but were caught by the manager.
"Did you see this?", the manager pointed to the "For residents only!" sign.
"No English", they pretended to know no English.
"Do you know that you have to live here to use this free service?"
"No English."
"According to the regulations, you guys will be fined for $25"
"No English"
...
"No English." That was the only answer the manager got in more than 5 minutes conversation. He found useless to continue any more.
"Apparently, you can not understand what I am saying. I will forgive you guys this time. But, never come back again."
"Thank you!"
However, the manager of the complex found that. One time, they went there again, but were caught by the manager.
"Did you see this?", the manager pointed to the "For residents only!" sign.
"No English", they pretended to know no English.
"Do you know that you have to live here to use this free service?"
"No English."
"According to the regulations, you guys will be fined for $25"
"No English"
...
"No English." That was the only answer the manager got in more than 5 minutes conversation. He found useless to continue any more.
"Apparently, you can not understand what I am saying. I will forgive you guys this time. But, never come back again."
"Thank you!"
Sunday, June 3, 2012
"I didn't buy anything"
In past of China dozens years before in Mao's society, Chinese were in circle struggle everywhere, revealing privacy and criticizing the wrong thoughts by public humiliation among each other, worse even arresting the poor guys to prison who may just said something wrong, so it caused Chinese non-confident among each other even in family, and very cautious in public to keep self innocent and to avoid trouble.
That is the environment and education my friend Happyyl received in his grow up, so he had an embarrassed incident happened in a few days when he first came to Canada from China in the mid 80's last century. Upon the arrival of the university town, he immediately went to K-Mart for some necessities. However, he could not find anything there priced within his limited budget ($360 stipend per month) and decided to go on to another store. However, having not gotten used to the Canada's open-shelf style store, he felt really uncomfortable to walk out the store empty handed. After some mental struggles, he went to one girl cashier (he thought he was handsome enough to be good impressed to her) and uttered “I didn’t buy anything”.
She stared at his eyes. Afraid of his poor English, he said the same thing again. Her eyes grew even bigger and rounder. He felt face hot and thought “Gee, is my English that bad? After all my TOEFL scored more than 600 points”.
Quickly checked all his words and grammar, he repeated the sentence once more, “I didn’t buy anything”.
After one minute or so (he guess she had finally realized what is his real meaning), she smiled and said, “I know. Just go.”
Saturday, June 2, 2012
Yale Chinese girl meets with her possible-mothers
It is a live story which is acting now, far from ending, and which moved millions of Chinese, as well as Americans. A Chinese girl who was adopted from being a baby by an American lady and becomes a Yale University student now, keeps searching her birth mother in Wuhan, China, and gets full support from her adopted mother. The great mother's name is Margaret Cook, and the lucky girl's name is Jenna Cook.
Jenna was found being abandoned at the first place in Wuhan, a big city in central China in 1992. Then she was sent to an orphanage and hosted in a couple's family for three months until she was adopted by Margaret, took to and grown in US.
In Jenna's grow process, Margaret teaches her not forget her heritage, learn Chinese, and take her visiting her home country many times. Educated and affected very effectively, Jenna grows up as a smart, kind, passionful, and helpful girl, and in her recent visits to China she volunteered in the orphanage where the baby she was sent to.
Jenna has an idea to search her birth mother from young age which is encouraged by Margaret, and the idea becomes stronger as she grows older. This year she returns China and by the help of media and Internet social networking, she meets quite a few possible-mothers.
I wish Jenna will find her birth mother eventually, while even if in the worst result she can't fulfill her dream, she would not regret for it, because she already has a best mother ever.
 |
| Margaret Cook and her adopted daughter, Jenna. Margaret fully supports Jenna's efforts to find her birth mother. |
 |
| Margaret (right), Jenna, and Jenna's hosted parents. |
Jenna has an idea to search her birth mother from young age which is encouraged by Margaret, and the idea becomes stronger as she grows older. This year she returns China and by the help of media and Internet social networking, she meets quite a few possible-mothers.
 |
| Jenna hugs and enjoys the intimation with a possible-mother. |
 |
| Jenna hugs and cheers with a possible-mother. |
 |
| Jenna and her possible-mother's family. |
Friday, June 1, 2012
Determining a wedding budget
In Emily Post's Weddings, she explained how to determine a budget:
"
A carefully prepared budget can spare you the nightmare of falling prey to impractical plans or running up unnecessary debts. Whether you plan an elaborate wedding with 300 guests or a simple ceremony with 30 friends in your own home, a realistic budget will help make your preparations more stress-free. If money becomes a source of tension, simply cut the guest list and adjust your plans accordingly.
With imagination and good planning, a beautiful wedding can be held within any limits. Whatever you plan, stick to your budget; otherwise, the worry and insecurity may carry over to your relationship and get your marriage off to a stressful start.
Begin by determining the amount you can spend on your wedding. Do this before you sign a single contract or make a firm commitment with any vendor. If you have $5,000 to spend and the reception site you're hoping for will cost $3,500, you are probably not leaving enough money to cover other costs-accommodations for your attendants, fees, a band or DJ, wedding attire, and so on-unless some of those items will be paid for by someone else or given as a wedding gift. If necessary, reconsider and find a reception location that is not as costly. Choose a public garden, perhaps, or a friend's beautiful backyard. Or have morning wedding followed by a brunch or an afternoon cocktail reception instead of a seated dinner. The variations are endless. With creativity and imagination and a willingness to be flexible, your wedding plans can fit your budget and result in a wonderful day.
The best way to plan is to begin with your absolute fixed costs, such as the minister's or rabbi's fee, the postage required for the wedding invitations, and the marriage license. Then add in the expected costs of your essential wedding expenses, such as the wedding dress, wedding rings, and gifts for the attendants. Subtract that total from your available funds and see what amount you have left to work with. This will give you a guide as to how much you have left for variable costs, such as flowers, limousines, a videographer, and the rehearsal dinner and reception. If there are more categories than dollars, set your priorities. Is gourmet food more important than expensive flowers? If so, adjust again. Costs that are not finite tend to grow with the guest list, so you should start there to make your adjustments.
"
There is a financial spreadsheet Joyousome Wedding Budget, which helps you keep track of budget planning and analyze spending composition in either estimated or actual condition.
"
A carefully prepared budget can spare you the nightmare of falling prey to impractical plans or running up unnecessary debts. Whether you plan an elaborate wedding with 300 guests or a simple ceremony with 30 friends in your own home, a realistic budget will help make your preparations more stress-free. If money becomes a source of tension, simply cut the guest list and adjust your plans accordingly.
With imagination and good planning, a beautiful wedding can be held within any limits. Whatever you plan, stick to your budget; otherwise, the worry and insecurity may carry over to your relationship and get your marriage off to a stressful start.
Begin by determining the amount you can spend on your wedding. Do this before you sign a single contract or make a firm commitment with any vendor. If you have $5,000 to spend and the reception site you're hoping for will cost $3,500, you are probably not leaving enough money to cover other costs-accommodations for your attendants, fees, a band or DJ, wedding attire, and so on-unless some of those items will be paid for by someone else or given as a wedding gift. If necessary, reconsider and find a reception location that is not as costly. Choose a public garden, perhaps, or a friend's beautiful backyard. Or have morning wedding followed by a brunch or an afternoon cocktail reception instead of a seated dinner. The variations are endless. With creativity and imagination and a willingness to be flexible, your wedding plans can fit your budget and result in a wonderful day.
The best way to plan is to begin with your absolute fixed costs, such as the minister's or rabbi's fee, the postage required for the wedding invitations, and the marriage license. Then add in the expected costs of your essential wedding expenses, such as the wedding dress, wedding rings, and gifts for the attendants. Subtract that total from your available funds and see what amount you have left to work with. This will give you a guide as to how much you have left for variable costs, such as flowers, limousines, a videographer, and the rehearsal dinner and reception. If there are more categories than dollars, set your priorities. Is gourmet food more important than expensive flowers? If so, adjust again. Costs that are not finite tend to grow with the guest list, so you should start there to make your adjustments.
"
There is a financial spreadsheet Joyousome Wedding Budget, which helps you keep track of budget planning and analyze spending composition in either estimated or actual condition.
Subscribe to:
Posts (Atom)